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Self Confidence

Volume 5, Number 1 January, 2006 <= /span>

Greetings!

THE EXPECTATION OF A POSITIVE OUTCOME is a definition of confidence. Self confidence is knowing you have the power to contribute= to the expectation of a positive outcome. This issue is devoted to how you= can look, feel, and be self confident.

Fear and self confidence

RECENTLY SEVERAL CLIENTS have= said fear diminishes their self confidence. One client described how she w= as afraid she would not meet the expectations of her boss when he first arrived at her organization. Then she realized that she always met expectations at work. When she thought more about the situation, she realized that she was afraid she would not have an opportunity to show her boss what she is capable of doing and the value she could add to = the organization. Now, she has a wonderful relationship with her boss (wh= o is no longer new). He values her abilities and knows she is an important part of the success of the whole organization. She is now sharing her experience and knowledge with others in her field and is at the foref= ront in making contributions that will have a positive impact on people's lives nationally. She has developed a procedure she follows when she begins to feel overwhelmed. Now, she faces the problem and starts to think about what she needs to do and what are the possibilities, inst= ead of worrying about it. She decides what she will do and always knows t= hat she can create another plan if necessary.

= WHEN ABRUPT CHANGES OCCUR, you may not feel you can cope. You could use a co= ach to help you remember that you are a capable person. <= /i>

= STARTING A NEW JOB OR CAREER can be frightening. A coach can help you plan ways = of learning your new job and learning who the "Players" are in t= he organization. You can develop a plan so you feel in control of what you are doing and learning. It is wise to tell people in your support groups that you need nurturing and reassurances while you are at the beginning learning stag= e. As you learn your new job you will feel more confident.

= OVER PREPARE whenever possible. When planning a project set an earlier deadl= ine for you and your team so that you will have an opportunity to practice = it. When you over prepare you will feel confident and not afraid.

Self talk and memories

SELF TALK IS= WHEN you carry on a conversation within your mind. Rather than think about negative results you need to think about positive outcomes in your mind. Also you need to be with positive people rather than negative and whini= ng people because they drain your energy.

= YOUR MEMORIES INFLUENCE your self confidence. You need to remember past successes. Your successes occurred because of how you used your knowled= ge and ability. So you need to concentrate on the successes.

= WHAT SHOULD YOU DO with memories of less than successful outcomes--even failures? You can distill what you learned from past situations. You can then plan what you can do differently in future similar situations. Per= haps you will learn that you did not have enough information or skills. If y= ou want to continue in the same career you may need to take courses, read books, or find opportunities to obtain more experience.

Body language

BODY LANGUAGE REFERS to how you communicate with your body= . If you have self confidence you walk into a room differently. People will = be attracted to you and be more ready to support you which will help you b= e a winner.

= "FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT." When you are not feeling confident put your shoulders back, raise your head, put a smile on your face, and look into eyes of the people around you. Usually, you will begin to feel better a= nd feel more self-confident.

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Expect positive out= comes.

Face your fears and= over prepare.

Use positive self t= alk.

Learn from your mem= ories.

Act confidently or "Fake it 'til you make it."

Dr. Mary Alice Hurd

DR. MARY ALICE HURD will help you create the life you w= ant. Phone her at 972.690.0442 or email her at maryalice@successdiscover= ies to schedule a complimentary coaching session. =

= AS AN EXECUTIVE COACH AND LICENSED PSYCHOLOGIST, Mary Alice integrates her experience as an organizational psychological consultant and 30 years a= s a psychology professor at Southern Methodist University. She received her coaching training in the MentorCoach program. Mary Alice h= as been coaching over the phone since 2001. (For further details click on = biography.)

= FOR THE BENEFIT OF HER CLIENTS, Mary Alice is working with a team of highly qualified independent coaches representing multiple coaching specialtie= s in a consortium called Success Discoveries. As a collaborative team they provide a broad wealth of knowledge and expertise for the benefit of corporate and individual clients. Visit the Success Discoveries shopping cart section at www.successdiscoveries.com where coaching opportunities and workshops are posted each week. <= /o:p>

Success Discoveries for Personal Effectiveness in a Corporate World

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THE SUCCESS DISCOVERIES WORKSHOP was successfully presen= ted on Friday January 27th. I will keep you informed as to when we will h= old our next workshop. Comments from some of the participants are shown below= .

I appreciated the professionalism of each presenter.

I identified stro= ngly with the materials and content that were presented. <= /span>

This workshop has addressed areas of interest regarding tools for me to use in ord= er to continue to grow professionally. It was great.

Would have liked = more time with the assessment results. Great workshop.

I am beginning to formulate ideas of how to bring the Success Discovery team into = my organization.

I will take this information and review it in detail and then determine my next s= tep.

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email: maryalice@successdiscoveries.com

phone: 972-690-0442

web: http://www.pilot-your-life.com
http://www.successdiscoveries.com

A= RE YOU TIRED OF DOING THE SAME THINGS yet hoping you will get different resu= lts?

A= FTER ONE MONTH INTO 2006 are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed?

A= RE YOU READY TO MAKE SOME CHANGES so you will have the positive outcomes you want?

M= AKE 2006 YOUR YEAR. Phone Mary Alice at 972-690- 0442 or email her at maryalice@successdi= scoveries.com.