Volume 6, Number 1 January/February 2007
Greetings!
LET'S CONGRATULATE OURSELVES! We have embarked on a new year. Some of us started new projects in January. February is a good time to think about our relationships and letting people know what we value about them. This picture reminds me how blessed I am that Phil is in my life.
"What I have learned.."
IN A CHRISTMAS EMAIL my daughter, Carol Anne Gordon, wrote, "This year has been especially blessed for me, as I've found the job that my whole life prepared me for. I am where I belong." I am including account of what she has learned below.
"IF I HAD TO PICK just one thing that this wonderful work has taught me, it is this: Say it. Say it today. Say it now. There may not be a tomorrow for you to say what it is you want to say to someone else. I stand by a lot of bedsides with grieving people, people who will never have the chance to say what they wanted to say to their loved one. Well, they can say it, but they won't be sure that their loved one will hear them say ... 'I love you.' 'Thank you.' 'I love you.' 'Let's try to work this out.' 'I love you.' 'I don't want to lose you.' 'I love you.' 'You were right.' 'I love you.' 'I don't like you right now, but I'll always love you.' 'I love you.' 'What's wrong?' 'I love you.' 'Can I help?' 'I love you.'" She went on to write, "Starting today, please say whatever it is you may be holding back, because you may never have another chance to say it to the person who needs to hear it, who may be longing to hear it."
Family Coordinator
 AS A FAMILY COORDINATOR with the Southwest Transplant Alliance in Dallas, Carol Anne (or another family coordinator) is called to be with the family of a person who has become brain dead. The coordinators are there to help the family and friends deal with their grief and to share with them information about organ donation. They explain how other people can live if they receive organs. Experience has shown that when families donate the organs of their loved one, it is comforting to them to know that some other people are able to live because of their gift of life.
IF YOU HAVE DECIDED you want to be an organ donor should you become brain dead, it is important that you tell your family and loved ones your wishes. Then, when the coordinator asks the family to consent to organ donation, it is easier on the loved ones at such a stressful time. It's one burden you can take off their shoulders.
MORE INFORMATION ABOUT ORGAN DONATION can be obtained from Southwest Transplant Alliance or at 214.522.0255. You can register to be a donor at www.texasdear.org .
Do or say what is in your heart.
BY CHANGING WHAT WE DO OR SAY each of us can change a relationship. If we are not happy about a relationship we can think about the relationship in a different way. What do we value in the relationship? What could we do to improve the relationship? What do we really want to say or do so the other person knows how much we care?
TO HELP YOU "Do or say what is in your heart," phone me at 972.690.0442 to schedule a SPECIAL FREE GIFT coaching session.
Showing love in a difficult situation
MANY OF US KNOW PEOPLE who have a relative or friend who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease. Being the primary caregiver is highly stressful. Recently Ceil Sinnex decided that she wanted to preserve special memories for her husband, John. Her story was published in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin. She presents her experiences from a positive perspective which she was able to share with John. It was an emotional experience for both of them.
MANY PEOPLE THEY HAD KNOWN in Hawaii contacted her. So she has reestablished friendships. An additional blessing was that one of John's sons reestablished contact with them. Writing their story was difficult for her. However, she was reminded of many good memories in their lives. In addition, she has received emails from people in similar situations who found her story helpful. You can read her story in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin 2006/23/31.
Dr. Mary Alice Hurd
 MARY ALICE IS AFFILIATED WITH SUCCESS DISCOVERIES a consortium of highly-qualified independent coaches representing multiple coaching specialties. As a collaborative team, we provide a broad wealth of knowledge and expertise for the benefit of corporate and individual clients. For our latest information, click on Success Discoveries.
DR. MARY ALICE HURD IS AN EXECUTIVE COACH AND LICENSED PSYCHOLOGIST. She integrates her experience as an organizational psychological consultant with 30 years as a psychology professor at Southern Methodist University. She received her coaching training in the MentorCoach program. Mary Alice has been coaching individuals and groups over the phone since 2001. She also presents workshops and speeches to organizations and groups in person. (For further details click on biography.)
A CLIENT WROTE, "Dr. Mary Alice Hurd has touched my life with her very talented telephone coaching in a special way. Many thanks go to her for helping me to think through a serious personal crisis and to reach a positive solution."
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